02 June 2010

Something I wrote

A while ago, I began writing for Helium. I wrote a few pieces and then stopped, not feeling like I was cut out for the program. I received an email this morning about an article I had written on the Catholic wife's role in marriage. The email was from the woman who had come up with the topic, and stated that it was "exactly what she was looking for." I thought I would share it here:

There is a common misconception in society that the Catholic Church degrades women by not allowing them to become priests. The Catholic Church actually elevates the role of woman in her role as a wife and mother. God gave us the distinct privilege of doing something that men cannot do-bear children. This aspect of being a woman in the Catholic Church begins with being a wife.
Society today has, unfortunately, come to the point where many choose to not commit to marriage, and instead, to co-habit. It is as if people need a trial period before making that leap of faith not only in the person you are with but in yourself. If they marry, they always know that divorce is an out, that they can get a do-over. This concept is a far cry from what the Catholic Church asks of its members. Part of the role of a Catholic wife begins even before a marriage takes place. It is the decision to take that leap. To say, "I am going to commit to you for the rest of my life."

Marriage is a partnership. It is a balance of give and take. As a wife, part of her role is to know when she needs to give. I am a Catholic wife, as was my mother before me. It may sound traditionalist, however, I feel that in a marriage, and in the establishment of a family, the woman is often the one who sets the faith tone of the household. He always tells people that he knew that his faith would deepen when he met his wife. His saying, "All it takes is a good Catholic woman." I am so blessed that I am that woman.

Again, this may sound traditionalist when compared to today's society, but a part of my role as a Catholic wife is to really be present to my husband and what he needs. I also need to pray-pray that I am a good wife, and pray that he is a good husband. As long as prayer and open communication exist, we can't go wrong.

I have friends who have chosen to not take their husbands' surname when they marry. Although there is no value judgment attached to this, for me, the decision to take my husband's name was easy. I gladly took his name in the interest of uniting us as a family. Some people may cry that this is wrong, that I have lost a part of myself by doing this. I, however, say that I am the same woman, and in fact, I am stronger for it. Being a wife and mother has empowered me in a way I have never thought possible. I can thank my husband and my Catholic upbringing for that.


Jamie Jo said...

Beautiful! I agree 100%

It was also an honor for me to take my husband's name, and I KNOW it made hime feel good and proud. I think it's kind of giving a little of ourselves right from the beginning.

gramma2many said...

Therese, this is actually a Christian Womans role in a marriage. As far as women becoming priests or ministers, there is a passage in the
Bible that clearly states that women are to remain silent in the Temple.
We are not to be teachers of men, however, we do have a very important role in the raising of our children and teaching younger women. God uses us, and has given us a very special role on earth.
This is a very good article and I hope there are younger women who read it and profit form it.
Love you:)

gramma2many said...

And profit from it. Should have proof read:)

Sarah Oldham said...

I'm attached to my husband, not my name. I love being ONE in body as well as NAME. Love this article!

Gardenia said...

Beautifully said, Therese.