This post has been stirring around in my head for quite some time. It started with something I read on one blog and then evolved into something else as a result of something else I read. From the beginning, please understand that I am in no way making a commentary on anyone else's choices. This post is about me.
So, as I said, a few weeks ago, I read a post from a new mom that she was lonely. Oh, how I remember those first weeks when I had stopped working to become a SAHM. I was so lonely. All of my friends at the time were still working, some not married, some married with no kids. I think that being a SAHM mom can be one of the most rewarding jobs in the world, but also one of the loneliest. I mean, you can't talk to your 2 year old about life's worries, can you?
I think over time, life changes. I had more kids. My life slowly changed. I hate to say it, but friendships changed too. I now have a group of friends who predominantly are also SAHMs. A few of my friends work, but most are in the same place I am. For the most part, the loneliness has subsided, but there still are days where I miss adult conversation. I suppose that is why blogging has become so important to me. It is kind of an outlet to alleviate those lonely days.
So, then I read on a couple of other blogs thoughts about what I term 'The Mommy Wars". You know what I mean, stay at home vs. working. I have to stay at the outset, that I hate this discussion because I think that stay at home mothers and working mothers can be downright mean to each other (breast feeding versus bottle feeding is in the same group). As a hybrid, (I work from home), I don't see myself as belonging in either group. I do wish we could support one another in our endeavors.